There’s gotta be a point where we stop pointing fingers, placing blame and making excuses and face the intense reality that this isn’t a dress rehearsal, this is life. There are no do-overs, this is it, and not all your problems are your fault, but all your problems are your responsibility. There won’t be a calvary showing up to save the day, mom and dad can’t always bail us out, and there aren’t going to be any happy endings. We have to take control of our situations and do what’s best for us. Nobody is going to die for you, so don’t let them decide how you live. I’m trying to convey the urgency of this message because I know many of you handsome friends are in places where you feel stuck , frustrated, and powerless, but you’re not. There are always options, even if the option is a baby step in the right direction, that small step is better than complaining, and dramatically better than doing nothing. There’s no WHAT IF questions you can leave in my comments this time. Get off your ass and fight for the life you want. Your time is limited here, there won’t be any do-overs.


Social media isn’t an absolutely evil entity, it’s the reason you know who I am, but there’s a permanence to social media that is hard to conceive. Every word we type on here will last FOREVER, and the way information has been weaponized, this stuff can come back to bite anyone in the ass at any time. When I was 16, I lived with my heart much more than my head and made impulsive decisions, but everything wasn’t recorded permanently onto the cloud. Every picture we post, every comment we leave, every keystroke we make is more permanent than a face tattoo, and that’s hard to wrap our heads around. I’m not advocating that everyone quit social media, it’ll forever be a double-edged sword like everything else in life. I’m advocating that we all take 15 seconds to think before we post, knowing that even though it’s easy, it’s still forever. …


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The only true freedom is that which comes through discipline. Discipline allows us to make more sustainable choices, and incremental improvements, so we can exist beyond that dopamine fix.

I’m not the epitome of discipline, but working on it every day has let the baby steps add up. I have the luxury to binge-watch shows and not be up in the morning most days of the week, but that won’t be the case for long if I keep it up, so I try to enjoy my vices in moderation; that works out sometimes.
Discipline doesn’t come from any magical spell, it comes from boring practice and repetition, and I know that doesn’t sound sexy, but it’s all we got. …


It’s simple, to stand with farmers of India isn’t to start a privileged debate over government policies, it’s a stance that encourages individuals and groups to fight to preserve their dignity and way of life. Over 350 Farmer groups have been demonstrating in over 20,000 locations across India against new policies that are largely seen as pro-corporation and anti-farmer. These are people that have fed their country for generations, and they deserve a hand and voice in their future. The government’s violent response to their demonstrations is more reason why their voice needs to be amplified

The pandemic has shown us that governments will choose policies that help big corporations over the little guy. When it comes to these issues, we’re all complicit, supporting “modern” changes that give us convenience, but impact the livelihood of the working people. I’m the son of a cab driver who uses Uber, a friend of local business owners who uses Amazon. The device in your hand contains cobalt, that cobalt was mined by a child, as young as seven, in the Congo. …


I’ve been trying to own up to my whack decisions & behaviour, and a big one was mixing up self-reliance with independence. I view people getting close to me as a threat to my independence, not owning that I, like all humans, need other people. When we rely on each other, we’re better primed to take more risks, responsibility, grow and be more self-reliant, but my personal story made me think I had to do it on my own. What I feel like this skewed mindset creates is a bunch of lonely loners. …


Sometimes we call it depression when it’s much more complicated than that. When life gets overwhelming, and we don’t have the energy, tools, strategies, and bandwidth to deal with it, we resign to the idea that something is just wrong with us; and that can often be the furthest from the truth.

Many of our choice either help or hurt our ability to deal with all the shit life throws us. …


Democracy is a super interesting social experiment. It’s one of the few ways of governing that makes room to adjust and evolve. Many of the largest democracies in the world hardly feel like everyone has a voice, but there are tiny opportunities to change that; those tiny opportunities are better than the non-existent opportunities in other places of the world.

Sometimes we have a choice, sometimes it’s only an illusion of choice, and sometimes there’s no choice at all. Regardless, there’s always an opportunity to amplify voices, take actions, get involved, and be more informed.

“Democracy is the worst form of government, except for all the others” — (not Winstin…


A survival mechanism we have is to ignore things that are going well and focus on things out of place. This kept us from getting eaten by the dinosaurs and skinny dipping into volcanos. It’s the reason you can’t smell things in your house, and don’t notice 99% of the things happening in life. Our brains have to decide what’s important and what should be disregarded. This was great back then, but now, it’s become a massive source of anxiety for us.

The fact that you’re reading this means most of your life is going well. You have the basic necessities, your part of the minority of the world who can read and the even smaller minority of the world who has access to the internetz. Our brains aren’t concerned with this, instead it’ll have us focus on the things that are out of place, and then have those things trigger our fight or flight responses (aka stress). …


One silver lining of social media is that it’s showing self-aware people what it means to be addicted and in an abusive relationship. We’re all addicted to our devices, and the majority of time we spend on them, they’re hurting us.

Yes, there’s cute videos of puppies, and uplifting stories, and nice quotes/captions from handsome bearded rappers, but that’s a thin slice compared to a giant pie of trash that impacts our focus, self-worth, priorities, and self-pity. But still we return, addicted to those rare, unexpected moments of wonderful; just like having an abusive partner.

I’m hoping this encourages a level of compassion towards people who are caught in these abusive situations, and struggle with addiction of any variety. Social media has shown us that none of us are immune to this, so we shouldn’t judge others who are in these challenging spots. …


I’m not going to patronize you and say “we all have the same 24 hours as #Beyonce”. The truth is, nobody has the same freedoms to use their time, but that doesn’t mean we can’t improve how we spend it.

The first thing I would encourage is to realize that life doesn’t owe us, and even if we didn’t start in a position of privilege, we’re able to create progress. That progress might be chipping away at debt, or turning a million into 10, depending on where you are. …

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