They say if you’re miserable when you’re alone, then you’re in bad company.

People often fear being by themselves. Loneliness is a mindset we have when we don’t enjoy our own company. Having other people around to deal with loneliness is a bandage solution to a serious injury. The only true way to eradicate the feeling of loneliness is to address our relationship with ourselves.

Loneliness is a mental state, not a circumstance. We all appreciate alone time and the peaceful solitude that comes with it. Although we feel our needs can be addressed on the outside, realizing that they came from within shows that they can online be addressed the same way.

We can’t control the feelings of other people. Priorities change and relationships die like the seasons, it’s futile to spend too much energy to keep people around who may be straying for their own reasons. The idea of being loved and celebrated by many, but we need to ask ourselves what is the real point of that?

Our real value isn’t determined in how many followers we have on Instagram, how many people like our Facebook posts, or how many people show up to our funeral, it’s how we feel about ourselves. When we enjoy our own company, many of the other things we spend calories on don’t seem so important anymore.

Love yourself, if you can’t love yourself, you have no business seeking it from anyone else.

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