We fall into cycles of despair, and when we do, we can interpret everything as being against us; that’s how it becomes a downward spiral. It’s very easy for us to point fingers at everything and everyone beyond ourselves when we struggle. It allows us to connect with ourselves while simultaneously isolating ourselves from everyone else. The problem with this is that it’s not sustainable and creates enough tension in and around us that we become very easily triggered by simple things.
This is important to recognize in ourselves and others. Sometimes we’ll say small things to someone and they’ll lose their shit. It’s not because they’re crazy — it’s because whatever we said was the last straw. People walk around collecting moments of stress, and if left unaddressed, stress will pile up until they hit their limit, and then Kaboom! We’ve all had our own stories of hitting our breaking point and letting the wrong person have it. Those experiences, as unfortunate as they are, also allow us to find compassion when it happens to others.
Look into yourself and try to figure out the big stress that is magnetically attracting all the tiny stresses to feed your volcano. When we address the big ones, the small ones can slide off our shoulders instead of building up into something they don’t need to be.