We've been cursed with this idea that we have to be perfect to deserve love. Go online anywhere, and all the criticisms and hate you see reflect this. People have to be perfect, and if they're not, they suffer the wrath of the public, and get cancelled. Social media gave us a way not to chase perfection, but to give the illusion of it, which even further pushes the idea that everyone is better and more deserving of love, smiles, happiness, and attention than you. It's all bullshit, yea a symmetrical face is nicer to look at, but that's fleeting and temporary. The inconvenient, but liberating truth is that perfect doesn't exist, never has, never will. Instead of waiting for things to be perfect, or feel perfect, let's learn to swim in the real which is very imperfect. We waste so much time and energy comparing ourselves with people who, themselves, are wishing they were better. We all have insecurities, and live by standards set upon us by other imperfect beings. Running in this race is endless and pointless.

Instead, let’s focus on where we want to be and the steps we’re taking to get there, and be okay with always wanting to get a little bit better, and leave the idea of perfect alone. If people criticise or hate on you, remember they’re telling their own story and the prison of other people’s standards is one that they’re trapped in- and misery loves company. Their opinions don’t matter as much as their cries for help and attention. I know this, because I’ve been that person so many times; maybe not online, but definitely in my head. I have to remember that the only enemy is the idea of being perfect, and once I let that go, I make space for myself, and others, to be humans; full of mistakes, flaws, room for improvement, and humanity. We don’t have to be flawless to be loved, we have to love others despite their flaws to feel it within us. #BLESS

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